How Do I Influence My Own Initiatives?

How much 

"Every system is perfectly designed to get the results it gets." - W. Edwards Deming 
"Every interaction is perfectly designed to produced the relationship it gets." - Me

In schools, and I suppose other organizational systems, our relationships with others play a distinct role in supporting the system that is organized around us.  And impressions being what they are, our interactions produce the quality of relationships we have with others. It appears to me that interaction begets relationships.  However, relationships do not beget interaction; they set foundations and contexts for more interaction.

How are we interacting with others via talk, email, and gestures?  Are people's reactions to our ideas a direct result of the quality of our interactions with them?  How much do we as innovators, thinkers, leaders control about our interactions?